When you are being, not becoming, happiness is always with you.

People who pursue happiness have a common question.



'What do I need in my life to be happy?'



Each one will be slightly different, but most likely the answer will be in a few categories: money, fame, health, etc. So, he lives in a hurry to fill the warehouse of his life with a lot of these grains of happiness.



What is the difference between those who have and those who have not?


It is already popular to say that this most common idea of ​​happiness is also the most erroneous.


The overall conclusions from the huge amount of data accumulated over a long period of time in the study of happiness are as follows.


'Even if various conditions of life, such as money, health, religion, academic background, intelligence, gender, age, etc. are all taken into account, only about 10 to 15% of individual differences in happiness can be predicted.' (There are already many similar papers and books. .)


Nevertheless, there are many people who spend 90% of their life time and energy to achieve these conditions associated with 10% of happiness. Especially to make money.


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It is unwise to expect and invest excessively in external conditions.


Money is similar to vitamins. Vitamin deficiency causes many problems in the body, but intake in excess of the right amount is no longer beneficial. Nevertheless, to say 'more' is to inflict a great loss on one's life in terms of opportunity cost. This belief keeps you from focusing on where you really need to invest for happiness.


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Emotions are relative.


Emotions do not have a lasting response to any stimulus.


Time erases happy and sad events faster than expected, and the baseline of emotions after extreme experiences has changed.



There are many 'life resources' other than money, but the logic for pursuing them is similar.


The idea is that you have to have a lot to be happy.


The expectation that you will be happy when something is fulfilled is an illusion and an illusion created by the mind.


Happy people are people who often experience trivial pleasures in different ways.


Happiness doesn't objectively depend on how much you have, but how much you like what you already have.



life is finite


Life is a matter of where and how you spend your limited time and energy.


When you are being, not becoming, happiness is always with you.

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