Why should you help someone in need?

 Why should you help someone in need?



True charity is without a thought in return


The desire to be useful to others.


- Swedenborg



American organizational psychologist Adam Grant, in his book, Give and Take, classified humanoids that appear when giving something to others into matches, takers, and givers.


A matcher is a person who gives back as much as he receives. When helping others, Matcher aims for fairness, advocates the principle of mutual aid, and protects his own interests.


A taker is someone who wants to get more than he gives. For them, human relationships are investment relationships. They give in anticipation of more coming back, and if they don't come back as expected after a few tries, they end the relationship. They see the world as a battlefield for the survival of the fittest and think that mine is mine to protect.


Giver always puts the interests of others before his own. Sometimes, even taking a loss.


What kind of sharing are we?



Why should you help someone in need?


There is pure altruism, the position that you should help others even if you are disadvantaged even if you are not of any help, and there is the position that you help others even if you think of yourself because helping others will eventually help you too. Some criticize this as 'just a disguised form of selfishness, but there are others who view it as human nature.


Hobbes used a strategy of reinterpreting motives. In altruistic behaviour, besides sympathy for those in need, there are self-centred motives such as social recognition or personal satisfaction for benevolent behaviour.



The act of helping is delivered properly by considering the appropriate timing and method.


When you help someone, you have to ask the other person for help first, and then you have to adapt it to the person when and how they want it. If you go ahead with this, you may become a loser of good intentions.


Maybe we don't want the other person, but don't we ask for help with our feelings and loyalty?


The best way to make enemies is to give uninvited advice.


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Why should we help those in need?


There is an answer to the question. I need help because I am a difficult person. As human beings, we must help others who are in trouble because we cannot deny it.

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