Trust created with time and sincerity. Realize and experience through relationships.

 Trust created with time and sincerity. Realize and experience through relationships.

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As it becomes impossible to share the pain and hurt in everyday life, trust has become the most unexpected thing in human relationships. Bauman says that all three categories of trust collapsed as we entered the modern era.


The first is trust in oneself, the second is trust in others, and the third is trust in the institution.


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It is because trust has collapsed that when you experience a dangerous situation, it leads to an opportunity to promote personal safety rather than new reflection. When one has distrust of the system, others, and even himself, the phenomenon of self-regulation, in which he monitors and censors himself for safety, spreads.


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Public relationships are not enough to build trust. In order for people to trust people, mutual understanding through informal contact and exchange is necessary. This goes beyond interests. Trust, therefore, is rather wary of relationships that come out too explicitly computationally. Therefore, a long-term notion of time is essential for human relationships. It is impossible to build trust without devotion over a long period of time. However, this era made most human relationships short-lived.


There is no need to "follow each other's tastes, compromise, and sacrifice to make the bond last." In other words, mutual commitment is lost. Relationships in this age are no longer seen as being produced, but as consumed.



In the society we live in, meeting with people has been replaced by a system like a milestone. Of course, you only have to look at the signpost and run, so there is little risk of getting lost. The principle of this road is efficiency. This road is not a meeting space, but only a functionalized line running towards the destination. What is lost on this path is contemplation and dialogue, and the possibility of another path. In fact, there is only one way that is most effective.


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So is life. When there are friendly milestones in every corner of our lives, we just have to follow them. From the moment we are born to the moment we die, our society has a set path. It is a milestone in the name of achievement and development. In today's society, the time for each achievement requirement is standardized. Failure to follow this developmental milestone will result in a loser, a failure.


Every moment of life is tightly standardized and evaluated according to indicators. To meet the target amount according to the indicator, that is the achievement.


The sense of accomplishment is no longer a 'feeling that comes from within'. Climbing the mountain, climbing to the top of the ridge and looking down at it, the sense of accomplishment, such as joy, was replaced by numbers. Achievements are given by indicators. The sense of achievement 'I did it' changed to meeting the target amount. In a society where the degree of achievement is measured and evaluated by indicators rather than by meeting with people, others are close to disruptors. Because it interferes with immersion in myself.


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In order to maintain a relationship, you must go beyond not interfering with other people's lives and take control of your own life in a way that does not burden others. This is the dilemma of the relationship we face in this day and age.


In this society, we are all lonely. And loneliness soon came to be mistaken for human existence.


Loneliness is the fear of being rejected by others or being denied the value of one's existence. It is the feeling of being alone, with or without a person next to you, and feeling that I am isolated and not understood from the world at all. In this state of loneliness, humans lose 'trust in themselves' and 'ability to think and experience the self and the world'. No matter what you experience, there is no way to guarantee the realization, experience, and meaning of what you experience. In this state, humans no longer need the world or others.

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