All you need to know about yourself is that you don't know.

 All you need to know about yourself is that you don't know.

The illusion that he knows about him spoils him. Because it makes you think that you are what you are not.

Conversely, the awareness that I don't know about myself makes me considerate of myself.

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Here we find an important principle of self-care.

It's acknowledging that you don't know.

I don't know who I am. No one can tell who he is.

This is the only starting point for taking care of yourself. 'I just don't know!'

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The starting point of self-care, 'I don't know'.

You have to treat yourself as an unknown being, an unknown being, that is, the other.

Because the other is not me, I am an unknown being. As an unknown being, we have no choice but to listen to his story. There is no other way to deal with him except to listen. I don't know who I am. Listening to yourself and listening to yourself, which you have no choice but to not know, is the beginning of self-care.

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'Don't know' is the source of wisdom, not ignorance.

 The wise are those who know what they do not know and know the limits of what can be different.

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This is the opposite position where self-realization and self-care look at 'I'.

Self-actualization assumes that you know yourself well. Because I know who I am and what I want, I take that 'knowing' as a starting point and focus on realizing what I know. The 'self' is the starting point, not the purpose of knowing and caring. Of course, in the process of realizing it, I find ignorance about myself that I think I know and go through the process of constantly revising it.

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On the other hand, in caring for oneself, 'I' is an unknown existence. The starting point of self-care is waking up from the illusion that you know yourself and acknowledging that you have no choice but to know. Recognizing that you don't know, taking that as your starting point, treat yourself with care, and discovering the self you don't know, that is, getting to know yourself, is 'knowing about yourself' from the perspective of self-care. Therefore, the self here becomes the object of 'discovery', not the object of 'realization'. From the point of view of self-knowledge, the attitude toward the self is the opposite of self-actualization.

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The affect of self-actualization without self-confidence is fear and sadness.

In self-care, it is the opposite. I don't know myself well. Because I met someone I didn't know, I can think about myself that I would have passed on if I didn't know and try to reconcile with that person.

Socrates said about this: Even if you are at odds with the whole world, it is better to agree with yourself. There is nothing more joyous than the moment when you are in harmony with yourself. Unity with oneself, if this is not consideration for oneself, then what is care for oneself?

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Taking care of yourself is nothing less than taking care of yourself and continuously promoting your growth. This is because my life becomes a narrative, and only when such a life becomes a narrative can I call it 'one's life'.

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To take care of your own growth, you need to know yourself well. Knowing yourself well here means knowing your attitude toward yourself and the world. This is because it is possible to promote one's own growth purposefully and not overdo it by overcoming obstacles to growth. The reason why so many people, without knowing themselves, rely solely on spontaneous learning, makes growth merely accidental and doomed, is because they do not know how to deal with the world.