Harmony of expressions to build relationships.

 Harmony of expressions to build relationships.


'When the background exceeds the appearance, it becomes rough, and when the appearance exceeds the background, it becomes a surface. You look like a gentleman only after the appearance and the background match well.' - Confucius


The process between people is deferred to persuasion. A person who is good at persuasion is recognized as a competent person and succeeds, but if he cannot persuade, he has difficulties in social life. So people learn to speak logically and try to have effective communication skills. However, no matter how you try to persuade the other person with excellent verbal skills, if you can't win the other person's heart, it's hard to get the job done.



If a good relationship is not formed, it is difficult to carry out the meaning no matter how good the communication skills are.


You cannot get good results if you go into the main topic with words that the other person is uncomfortable with hearing. Rather than convince you, it can only hurt your heart. To persuade, you first need the wisdom to acknowledge and elevate the other person.


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Just because an individual's inner self is full doesn't mean it's complete. It has to be well expressed and harmonized.


Often people think, 'The heart is important, it must be said in words. But this is just an excuse for someone who can't express it properly.


It is important to express your feelings nicely. Because the other person is not a mind reader who can look into my heart...

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