Another me, my friend.

Another me, my friend.


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Let's talk Confucius “There are three kinds of friends that are helpful and three kinds of friends that do harm. An honest friend is the first to be helpful, a friend who keeps his promises is the second, and a friend who is knowledgeable is the third. The first is a friend who does not know the wide world, the second is the one who farts, the third is the one who is cunning."


- Analects 16:4


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An honest and knowledgeable friend is someone I can learn from. On the other hand, I have nothing to learn from those who are clogged and cunningly attached here and there. This only leads me astray.


But again, a friend is a friend, and a brother is a brother.


You have to have your own 'distance' to make friends. No matter how close friends are, there is a line that each other should not cross. So, there is nothing to be upset about by embracing your friend too much when he or she is wrong.


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Zigong asked. Let's talk Confucius "Give advice and lead in the right direction, but if you don't like it, you have to stop.


- Analects 12:23


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It means that making friends is important, but it's not about making friends with anyone, and it's not something you're going to do as you lead the right way and go far and wide. Friends in the 'analogous language' do not mean elementary school classmates. Because they are comrades or companions who share the same will with me and walk the road together. If you are walking on the same path and one day your friend turns to a different path, he recommends them faithfully several times, and if you say 'no', you stop. this is a friendship


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Confucius said, "If a friend is dead and his soul has nowhere to go," said Confucius. "Let's set up a mortuary in our house."


Meanwhile, he did not thank a friend for a gift, such as saying it was an expensive carriage. However, he said hello to the meat that the friend sent to his parents after making a sacrifice.


- Analects 10:15


This is how Confucius made friends. A friend who is single or has no descendants and has no place to bury the body is enough to set up a mortuary in their own house, but the gift between friends is that no matter how expensive or precious it is, they do not say thank you. This is because true friends are like me or 'another me'. Just as the left hand receives an object from the right and does not greet it.


In this way, the 'people-centred view of friendship', in which I keep my friends' souls in my house, and share their wealth without mine or mine, will be said to be the best part of making friends.


Considering the current state of dating people based on money or status, Confucius and Zi's view of friendship is truly exemplary.


When you can afford a drink, you are a friend and I am a friend, but when the money runs out in your pocket, the world becomes colder. But maybe it's not just someone else's fault.

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