the nature of the relationship

 the nature of the relationship


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Just like national borders, borders exist between people.


What border guards do is also essential at the border between people. However, it is difficult to keep the boundaries between people because they are so blurry. Only when I can recognize that boundary can I protect me and not invade the other person.



The concept of boundaries is not a utopia, but a concrete, real, and practical one.


In social relationships, you and I may be divided into A and B, but psychologically, everyone is Gap to Gap.


Even if we can recognize that the whole relationship is not determined by the same social relationship between A and E, we can change the relationship between A and G into that of Gab.


Maintaining a relationship is when it is a joy and pleasure, or an opportunity for learning, maturity, and reflection.


That is the essence of the relationship.

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