Let's become a healthy narcissistic sheet that we can empathize with.

 Let's become a healthy narcissistic sheet that we can empathize with.



Every human being has the most outstanding tool from birth to connect with people and gain social power. That's 'empathy'. If developed well and used appropriately, we can understand the thoughts and feelings of others. You can anticipate their behaviour and soften the backlash.


The reason the blade becomes dull despite having such a useful tool is that it is habitually buried within itself. To some degree, we are all narcissists.



Humans are social animals to the bone. My survival and happiness depend on the bonds I form with others.


From the moment we are born, the human desire for attention is endless. However, it is impossible to expect others to look at me and acknowledge me. Still, I crave attention. A human being faced with this dilemma has found a solution. It is the creation of a ‘self’. The self is an image of myself that comforts me and makes me feel recognized 'from within'. The ego consists of tastes, opinions, worldviews, and values.


When building a self-image, we tend to emphasize the positive aspects of ourselves and move away from our flaws. A self-image that is separated from reality causes discomfort to others, which creates doubts about oneself. But if adjustments are made at the right level, there is a self that I can love and cherish. From then on the energy is directed inward. The centre of my attention is me. You no longer have to rely entirely on others for attention and approval. There is 'self-esteem'.


The human brain is built for the constant occurrence of social interactions. It is this complex social interaction that has contributed greatly to the rapid increase in the intelligence of the human species.


Advances in technology and the development of the Internet have reduced the time to meet people and encourage online relationships. Like any other skill, empathy is acquired through high-quality attention. A person becomes just a tool. It's not a relationship, it's a tool to relieve anxiety. As the relationship with others decreases, negative effects begin to occur on the brain at some point, and the muscle called sociality is atrophied. To make matters worse, Western culture tends to emphasize individual and individual rights as the highest value, which encourages self-absorption. More and more people can't even imagine that others have a different point of view than mine. Even though people do not have the same desires and thoughts.


Life's greatest challenge is to overcome this narcissism, self-absorption, and learn to use your sensibility to others, not in yourself, but outwardly. At the same time, it is only by recognizing the harmful narcissists among us that we can avoid getting caught up in their play or poisoned by their envy.

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